“Can I divorce my parents?”
That is what the young girl said to me.
Lord. She wanted to divorce her mother and father.
Her parents had abused her in many terrible ways as a child and they continued to do so to this very day.
She felt that she was forever bound to them because they had given birth to her several years ago.
Her parents thought that by giving birth to her they were permitted and entitled to brutalize her.
This grieving, wounded girl didn’t understand that her parents had already divorced her through their abusive conduct. Their parental contract had already been broken by their shameful behavior. The names ‘mother’ and ‘father’ were no longer appropriate names for them to wear.
I told the young girl, O God, that we usually deserve the names we are given by others to wear. Names like: ‘loafer,’ ‘freeloader,’ ‘addict,’ and ‘friend’ are all earned names.
I said to her that she didn’t need to divorce and separate herself from her parents at all. They had already done that a long time ago. They had given up and discarded the good names they no longer deserved to wear.
No child should ever have to divorce her parents, dear Lord. No parent should ever make them want to.