Saturday Service November 2020_2
The Saturday Service November 14, 2020
Epictetus: “What upsets people is not things themselves but their judgments about the things…So when we are thwarted or upset or distressed, let us never blame someone else, but rather ourselves, that is, our judgments.”
01:01–04:10 – 260+ days of COVID and losing our minds Links: SUPPORT: https://rotb.org/support/ ETSY SHOP: https://www.etsy.com/shop/RabbiBrian
05:05 –33:00 – quoteth Rabbi Brian: “What upsets people is not things themselves but their judgments about the things…So when we are thwarted or upset or distressed, let us never blame someone else, but rather ourselves, that is, our judgments.” -Epictetus Discussion from the peanut gallery – how can we interpret this quote? Maybe that judgment shouldn’t bother us so much? Spending too much energy on what is bothering you. Reflection on ourselves? Becoming the thing that we’re judging? Robert Schuler quote: “moral indignation is often jealousy with a halo” Examples: Discernment vs Judgment – kids on a basketball court not wearing masks… why are you judging this? Rabbi Brian: take your judgy pants off! Can we be judgmental without being so indignant? Eg: telling the kids that there is a pandemic and they should have their masks on calmly instead of screaming at them Difference between judgment of a person vs judgment of an action (Bob)? Hoping that lessons will be learned via the action done. “Hate the sin, love the sinner”
36:11–40:35 – feedback from the very short breakout: Peanut gallery said the breakout time was adequate. Rabbi Brian: every Friday, gather around the table and say 3 things you like about everyone else around the table. Suggestion for Zoom Thanksgivings.
40:36–48:10 – Rabbi Brian: Draw a picture of a spoon. How, you ask? Draw the handle, then draw the bowl. Give it some depth by going along at the bottom. Then, draw in the shading around the bowl and handle. Then, you MIGHT have to title the work of art (if you draw like me). Accompanying quote: “If you dislike someone, the way they hold their spoon will offend you. If you like someone, they could drop a plate of food in your lap and you’d not mind.” Interpretation: How many of you like your drawings? If you didn’t, why were you less kind to yourself about your drawing? SO… BE KIND TO YOURSELF! Peanut gallery discussion
49:31–55:10 – different question: would you like to share something with our lovely sympathetic group? John suggested the song Hello in There John Prine to reflect on loneliness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnyCJ…
58:01 Plug for James’ book and what celebrities can we get in touch with re: his book? Book:
PREVIEW of Next week: use of the word cathect?