00:00 – 01:59 – welcome and trying out a new concept – broadcasting at a friend’s house instead of home
02:00 – 03:37 – 1/2 Exercise: breathe out via mouth(exhale). Remember to do that often … JFE(Just F***in exhale). Practice a few times.
03:38 – 10:14 – asking people“How are you”, do you really mean it, how are you REALLY doing? How are WE doing today and do we have enough data? Polling for feeling. Knowing that there are some things that are stressing us out these days. “We are up and down”
”The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor: he took my measure anew every time he saw me, whilst all the rest went on with their old measurements and expected them to fit me.”
― George Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman
10:15 – 11:50 : can you prove to me right at this moment that you are not fully loved exactly as you are? You are loved. You cannot tell me you aren’t.
11:51 – 13:06 – 1,2,3, EXHALE! Keep practicing this all day, please.
13:07 – 23:59 – A story about an egg, a carrot and a coffee. Eggs are, by their nature delicate, compared to carrots and coffee. Carrots are hard. Coffee is bitter. If you take any one of these and add to boiling water, something changes. Egg goes from being delicate to being hard, Carrot becomes soft, coffee becomes delicious(ish).
Water = change. We all are delicate that can become hard or soft or become delicious(ish).
What were we when we woke up? Transformation! We will become something different.
Our religious trip = All about the journey. What can be road blocks? Pain, mindset, stimulation, comfort, fixed mindset. We need to be of a GROWTH mindset. Very little is fixed.
What is the biggest thing this is keeping you from changing or being loose and open to change?
– Breakout rooms question: what is keeping me fixed/keeping me from knowing it’s all about change(growth mindset)? Creating flow and change?
What is keeping me from change is ___.
24:00 – 33:05 –“There’s never enough time unless you’re serving it.” Re: Too little time in breakout rooms. Announcement from James: he has a typewriter now and should move into a Level 2 security wing in 2021(lower level of security).
33:06 – 53:59 – Discussion from Breakout groups. What is keeping us from being transformed?
Missing out on a developmental stage
FOMO: Fear Of Missing Out!
Importance of a spiritual life is to be transformed. Thomas Martin“If the you of 10 years ago doesn’t think that you of today is a heretic, the you aren’t growing spiritually.”
Time is the only thing that makes change possible. And The only thing that keeps us FROM it. – Rob
Life gives you two options, change towards the direction or not.
Building on Rob’s comment:“Eventually, all things merge into one, and a river runs through it. The river was cut by the world’s great flood and runs over rocks from the basement of time. On some of the rocks are timeless raindrops. Under the rocks are the words, and some of the words are theirs.
I am haunted by waters.”
― Norman Maclean, A River Runs Through it and Other Stories
I did not choose to be something, I pushed against it(like Jonah and the Big Fish). Only when Jonah is present to reality(inside the big fish), that he is able to choose. Then, once he is delivered to Nineveh, he realizes the task was easy.
The fish knows what to do. Hafiz:“At a certain point, the fish has to say“something just ain’t right about this camel ride…”. The fish is out of his element(Oh shit, stuff is really fucked up, I should be scared).
“It is one thing to recognize one’s dependance and limitations, and it is something entirely different to indulge in this dependence, to worship the forces on which one depends…the one is humility, the other self-humiliation.” – Erich Fromm
– what does this mean? Interpretations. I am not fixed, I can change. I won’t change every moment, but I will change. Different between interdependence and independance.