31.40 Band Aid Religion


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From Rabbi Brian 31/40

Band-Aid as a Metaphor

A few years ago, I cut my thumb pretty badly while I was working on some stained glass. No stitches though – thank God.

Here’s what I wrote about it:

There’s a band-aid covering the tip of my very sensitive left thumb.

It’s going to get better, just not on my timetable.

I want to point pull back the band-aid and check to see if my thumb has healed.

I know it hasn’t. And yet, I still want to check.

I know that my body – a most glorious, self-righting organism – will heal itself after a week, or two, or three.

But I still want to check now.

I think life is like that.

There are some things in life that just can’t happen any sooner than they can happen. And while we know this, we obsessively check on them anyway.

This is spoken to by Rainer Maria Rilke:

I would like to beg you to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.

Sadly, we often lose patience with ourselves for failing to be just slightly ahead of where we actually are.

I encourage you to put a band-aid on your finger and let it remind you to wait patiently for your life to unfold.

Spiritual-religious advice: Wait. Be patient. Life will unfold.



With love,

Rabbi Brian

Rabbi Brian

Rabbi Brian
Rabbi Brian Zachary Mayer is the founder of Religion-Outside-The-Box.

Shortly after he was ordained as a rabbi, he left mainstream congregational life to encourage people to find and be with (the) God (of their understanding).
His day job is teaching advanced mathematics to Los Angeleno High School students. The rest of the time is with his family.

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