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The
scene opens with you and me in my office. I have a
phone headset in my hand and I’m on a call.

Do you know what do you really want?

(It’s an easy question to answer
badly.)

I have found over and over again that
what people first say they want usually isn’t what
they really want.

When it comes to material
things, usually we don’t want the trinket as much as
we want the feeling that we imagine will come along
with possessing it. (That’s why we get bored of
possessions so quickly, we didn’t really want them
as much as we wanted what we thought it would bring
us — which it doesn’t — and so we go off in search
of a new bauble or different momentary
high.)

10 minutes of
wants

Most people after writing what they want
for a few minutes wind up with very different
answers than they started with.

So, I
encourage you to do the following personalized,
religious experience: for the next 10 minutes
write out everything you want. (You’ll be
surprised at what you come up with.)

With
love,

If you care to share what you came up with in 10
minutes, I welcome your wants. Should you want a
copy of my list, please e-mail
me.

P.S.

After
you complete your list, there are a few things to
think about:

• What are you currently doing
  that is helping you get what you want?
• What
  are you currently doing that is preventing you from
  getting what you want?
• What is it that you
  are *not* currently doing that might help you get
  what you want?
• As a result of thinking about
  the above — what can you commit to doing to help you
  to get what it is that you want?
• When will
  you commit to doing it?