Disappointment

Facebook
Twitter
LinkedIn
WhatsApp
Email
Print

Disappointment

 

Kim, who bakes the artisanal matzah I annually send to friends throughout the US, tested COVID positive in the weeks before Passover, when production usually starts.

“Brian,” she said on the phone, “I can’t make the matzah.”

Like that. No drama. No other words.

“Wow,” I said, surprised, curious as to what would happen.
She continued, “I’m learning that disappointing people isn’t as bad as the fear of disappointing them.”

Disappointing others is a feature of life.

Calling the 17 ROTBers who pre-ordered the matzah and telling them it wasn’t going to be delivered gave me a chance to practice.

And, you know what?

Kim was right.

The fear of disappointing them was worse than the actual disappointment.

 

***

 

Brene Brown:
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.

 

***

 

We can’t be all things to all people.
We need to practice disappointing people.

Here’s a helpful thing to remember: 
Disappointing people is hardly ever immoral.
It’s just what humans do..

 

***

 

Go. Be disappointing.

***

Post Script:

I thought I was done with this article.
The universe did not.

My wonderful Annie asked me for something beyond the limit of what I wished to give. 
Writing this article was much easier than saying “No, honey, I’m sorry to disappoint you.”

 

ROTB’S WEEKLY GATHERING.
Saturdays at 8am PT

 LIVE :  ROTB here. 
Or on Facebook / YouTube

With love,
Rabbi Brian

Share with a Friend

Facebook
Twitter
LinkedIn
Email
WhatsApp

Also by Rabbi Brian

77% Weekly
Rabbi Brian

BAD MOOD

  I’m in a horrible fucking mood. Deal with the cuss word. We are adults. The g.d. vending machine at the airport took the $10

Read More »
77% Weekly
Rabbi Brian

Authored

Authored? Authorized? I’m thinking about having a co-author for this book I’m writing. However, I’ve not yet decided.   ***   Assuming you are holding

Read More »
77% Weekly
Rabbi Brian

Anti-Racism

# Anti-racism *** If you’ve missed the recent _ROTB Saturday spiritualigious service gatherings_, we’ve been talking a bit about being an anti-racist. Catch up by

Read More »